STUPID''S MAG
I saw who
I had never seen a dream come true.
It is truly amazing, how someone could be so adulated towards each other.
Sharing the appraisals, getting the compliments, could be more than just a need for plaudit.
And all of us have it. People do have a need for acclamation of their achievements. Even a small acknowledgment of attained success can make a huge difference.
How to make an appraisal over someone's attainment?
For some people it is extremely hard to do so. They do not to see any of the added value, they do not see the need of your existence of existence of another human being, therefore they never have a need to appreciate another person's performance. At times they mostly do not ever grant themselves or being in opposite, they only address all performance regardless anyone involved as their own only.
Having an appraisal, is an acknowledgment of achieving something being done by one particular individual, not a team. Even if it was a team work, the complementaries are being given individually. This is most of the time contradicts with those who do not see any value in you or do not want to admit the performance indicators of others.
There could be something which is stopping them. Then is there something which is not stopping others to be polite, kind, gentle and affectionate towards each others? And those are the majority.
Is there a recipe for your boss to start suddenly not disliking you, to recognise all your try outs?
The answer is mostly No. There is could be unnoticed sudden dislikability, which was not obvious a the beginning. But generally, if there is no, there is no. It is better to change the deal. Expecting miracles is always possible.
Try this out:
1. Be yourself
2.Be on time
3. Be available
4. Be always with a smile
5. Be Better than previous best
6. Be strong with massive immunity contact list
7.Be able to deliver to your boss the needs before being asked
8. Be polite, kind and gentle when the business is involved
9. Be responsive to need of compliments to your boss and collegues
10. Be funny
11. Be generous with your time and overtime
12. Be always ahead of your boss without anyone knowing it
13. Be always perfect
14. Be protective
15. Be a good listener
16. Be wiser but never too stupid
It is always worth to reflect yourself and other as self employed, rather than invisible team member, but keep in mind your bank account needs the recognition too.
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You are not him you are not her its yours.
What do you mean it is not mine?
I still cannot understand it myself.
Nothing coming to your mind, nothing leaves the lights which is not your light. The only reasoning for having not your light is being overshadowed by someone else. Asking yourself what is the reason for someone overshadowing you, is turns out to be simple. Its because you need to replenish your emptiness and fulfilling yourself with something better. The problem arises, when you are not empty at all and your light replenishment could be coming from your distant past, but at the current situation hasn't got any place to park. Even if it did park, most of the time, that particular light, always parks somewhere, where you don't need, and disturbing the peace where it should not be disturbing, but rather should be focusing on something else, than dragging you down to emptiness of darkness. It is extremely hard to have your light where it should be, without having not that guy, blocking your current thoughts. If you saw every light converted into a person, don't get scared, but don't get acceptance. I don't think so, I do not deserve this quality, I don't like you. My preference are different, my choice is as such, my selection is based on my likability. This is who you are and there is no need to feed you with something or someone you do not like. respect, or taking into any form of consideration.
You preference are different, and this is a reason for asking for approval. Do you agree with this light? Do you agree with this statement someone else is telling you? Do you like what someone is offering you? It is humane to reject. It is humane to have an opinion. It is humane to speak up your mind, but it is not humane to forth you in too believing something is a lie. Having attempts to rewrite your own aura, with someone's light whom you don't like, respect or appreciate their existence is not a road any one needs. It is an abuse and it is definitely not yours.
Humans based on their survival needs are mostly seeking the light of someone whom they considered to be in a way better than them. But it doesn't mean they should get into the shower with your and cuddle every here and then in your dreaming. It is not how someone reflects the admiration and appreciation. It is an abuse. Unless, the light is a well known celebrity with massive filtering and parallel universes are being included, which in many doubts any of us is.
Having your own filters established is any of the human being basic survival need, which is being generated through your doing, personality, attitude, decision making, your establishments in life, career and all possible activities and thoughts.
How to reject the light you don't want?
Try to change your bulbs. Meaning, seek other data, meet different people, try to recontact with those who had been already proven as your light giver and they are still available for guiding you through your darkness. The darkness not necessarily caused by you, not necessarily cause by someone else. But every tomorrow is not yesterday, therefore a few of us know what to expect and to be always ready with their responses miles and miles ahead.
The most important in any situation is to keep your own light as pure as possible, without getting into anyones block roads deals.