Oh my horrible awful bosses, level extreme

Luckily for many of us it is not happening to everyone, probably you just need to be somebody to have such low experience of belittling yourself.

But here it is, when the chief takes your spot light it is all about the chief taking your spotlight, there you are standing in the shadow, of your own disgrace thinking about his/her excellence over you.

Your heart beats his name your thoughts are being over loaded with the memory about him, every breath you take it is your boss name, which whom you no longer work and all it needed to suddenly awake towards him the love is to be fired by him.

You spent every free of your unemployed time thinking about your former boss, when you wake up and when you fall asleep. Only him, but there is also her, she is also your boss, and the love you have towards her is enormous. It is calling your heart and your tender senses to love her all the time, with every piece your mind.

You are in love with the horrible bosses, who you hardly know. All you eyes are seeing is their love at the dream about them only. It is a father and daughter and you are in love, having an opportunity to sneak peak into the future with a promise to believe, you will be with him and daughter together.

Who is she? She who? You horrible boss wife? She was recycled just as your daughter's boss, as part of temporarily software, lasting only 1 week.

Sounds weird but let's sort it.

Regardless of any working experience was before, there is always a change to get involved into boss to boss dispute.

Fist of all, downgrading yourself to obedience towards someone superior is we'll known slang for Labour Party level, the blue collar workers. It based on the perception of reality of the labour class party, where I am you and you are me, because you is me in the other light, regardless the ranks, gender or achievements. The tracking length of the labours is very long, therefore their catches might survive a very long time and most of the time those at the most resistant to the intellectual statements of the mind.

Not everyone thinks this way, but this way someone thinks.

There is no particulair a reason to receive a challenge with a horrible boss. But somehow it needs to be handled. Chances of restructuring the boss could be very low, and might lead to be ending up in jail or being fired. Therefore, it is better to change if you can, leave if you can't. Leaving with dignity is a better suggestion than staying in intoxicated environment. As the experience had shown it is not just one boss deal, there is always something else is involved, unless getting into the digging the mole deal. It might never be uncovered, what's behind the man in the mask your horrible boss.

What are the sings your boss is not your right man or a woman to lead you to where you want to be:

1. Pay rise

2. Get promoted

3. Learn something new (as part of further promotion)

4. Explore your career

5. Survive post covid environment

6. Other life situations

7. I just work there for money, let me do my basic job in peace

It is more than obvious if some of the needs cannot be accomplished when you are under wrong leadership.

Changing the boss is a solution within the same organisation, but there is always but, if you are at the wrong organisation.

How to distinguish the wrong organisation and the organisation, which cares. Because they care and there is no need even to consider there is somethings wrong, because there is not.

What is survival equipment with a horrible boss:

1. Do not belittle yourself

2. Keep your head high up, you deserve more

3. Confrontation doesn't help most of the time, but it worth to try while having all the doors ahead of you open, as part of fire exit

4. Keep it down without conflicts over your colleagues, rather avoid any personal data share

5. If horrible boss is known within the organisation avoid getting into sabotages with other colleagues

6. Keep your thoughts for yourself, specially at low labour level talks

7. Learn anything you need to the extend as much as you need, but the horrible bosses most of the time keep the knowledge to themselves, though their other colleagues at your beginner position. Preferring to keep you at their level of perception of you ( you hardly move anyone with them than being always a beginner).

8. If a boss started to copy your moves, your voice or your attitude of personality, it is better to leave, as there is no way to make it work, regardless how many managerial and Human Resources experience you had before.

9. Sometime it is advisable to keep tracking record of your work abuse, and to hire a lawyer. It is hardly ever provable you had been scammed with prank recruitment of someone else's needs, cause it will only be the level of your own perception and everything you had done in the past.

10. Do not respond rudely and vulgar to the verbal rude abuse. Keep your dignity at your level, it is unacceptable to be spoken rudely in working environment or anyhow to be downgraded. Report it further and consider resignation.

11. In case being physically abused at work, do not accept it and rather report it further. At some organisations the respond gets to probation period warning to you, not to the abuser. Do not get discouraged, and rather start considering leaving the organisation.

12. If being rejected to be given access to the data you need to accomplish the task successfully, either by your boss or colleagues, do not argue. Report it further or confront it with ease. If it repeats consider leaving.

13. If received negative feedback from your boss or colleagues, report it further, and consider the change. But keep in mind changing the boss's attitude is not a solution, neither awaiting for your colleague to be fired won't bring much at your probation horror deals.

14. Your immunity and wellbeing matter, if your boss and you colleagues do not accept it, rather excluding you from anything you came to accomplish , it is not the leader you need.

15. If the boss is stealing your light of love, he or she is stealing the light of your love, as simple as that.

No one goes to work to be heart broken and that's a memory to remember.

Horrible bosses mostly bring a sense of insecurity and fear. Fear to be fired, fear to receive a bad feedback, fear being long term unemployed, fear to be without money, fear to be getting out of control over your own career, fear to be ridiculed and loosing a face, fear to have your future career destroyed, fear to fail your own expectation, fear to fail the expectations of your close ones and the family, fear to have your humiliation being known further at your career and among your close ones.

If such fear arises, keep in mind, it is not your fault, it is the organisation fault and only their fault. As for your close ones and family, those should immediately stand by you, rather than judge you. If no one at organisation stood up for you, it is because the way the organisation had been created. Their love is not for you.